So. Hi again.
A slew of not-unfortunate-at-all events have happened since Friday night, events I had originally planned to cover in-depth within separate posts: volunteering for the Lord of the Rings exhibit for the third time in two months; breaking my fifteen-year hiatus from Chuck E. Cheese; looking at engagement rings for the first time in my life.
However, all of those topics took a backseat on Monday night, when I had my first mentoring session with "Annie."
Annie lives on the campus of a local rehabilitation facility. She is in the secure unit, where there are bars and locked doors and few windows. When she's not on campus, she lives with a foster family and is one of eight children under her parents' roof. During our initial meeting, her face lit up and she said, "I've been waiting for a mentor for really long time."
On Monday, we spent almost two hours playing Phase 10 and eating Doritoes (her one request). Curious children peeked in the windows of the recreation room, closed off during our session, to see what we were doing. While I shuffled cards, others were screaming obscenities as they were restrained by security; others just cried for their mothers.
Annie complimented my shoes and asked what size I wore in clothes, saying how much she adored hand-me-downs. She caught sight of my hand lotion from Bath and Body Works and wanted to try it out. She asked for my phone number so she could call me in between our visits, which will most likely include more Phase 10, a side of Clue, and the rest of the Doritoes.
When I first considered mentoring, I imagined baking cookies with pretty little girls in pig tails who had two parents and a membership with the local Girl Scout troup and no history of physical abuse. Instead, I was introduced to a girl who needs a friend and role model more than I ever could have imagined; a girl who, in turn, will also prove to be a role model for me.
On that note, here's a list of
What I'm Thankful For
- A boyfriend who lets me slack off on laundering clothes and loading the dishwasher
- That I finally finished the sixth installment of Harry Potter
- Almost seven months of accident-free driving
- Hot chocolate
- Online shopping
- Unlimited long-distance calling
- A boyfriend who acknowledges that spinach dip is a full-course meal in and of itself
- Turning various friends and family onto the blogging bandwagon and watching them display literary talents I never knew they had
- Glow-in-the-dark pajama pants
- All My Children
- Diffusers
- Toilet paper that doesn't flake
- Parents who support me in making decisions they wouldn't have made for me themselves
- A boyfriend who understands that I can't support a wedding date that has three zeros in it
- Designer eyeware
- Making it through two whole months without sporting sauce on my face
- Welcoming my first brother-in-law
- Feeling welcomed by my future parents-in-law
- Learning that some necessities are really wants
- Learning it's OK for the oldest not to do everything first
- My career
- Being old enough to have a career
- Having a career that can financially support the family Luke and I have made in each other
- My brother and sisters
- Ice cream
- That Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey had at least three years of wedded bliss
- My life
Happy Thanksgiving.
You are such a gifted writer. ;) Xoxo
Happy Thanksgiving!
Posted by: Sambo V. | November 25, 2005 at 05:35 AM
Happy Thanksgiving!
Posted by: Mark | November 25, 2005 at 01:45 PM
Gobble gobble, Frema! Great Thanksgiving post.
Posted by: Number Twelve | November 25, 2005 at 01:58 PM
And The Good Life we have indeed.
Posted by: Number Twelve | November 25, 2005 at 02:01 PM
I think that is amazing that you are a mentor!!
Hope you had a great holiday!
Posted by: Kayte Marie | November 25, 2005 at 03:17 PM
Like I said at dinner, I'm thankful for every moment I spend with Frema.
Posted by: Luke | November 26, 2005 at 01:49 PM
You and your spinach dip ;)
The mentoring sounds like a great experience!
Remember, when engagement rings are purchased, a photo on your blog is required ;)
Posted by: Bearette24 | November 26, 2005 at 08:21 PM
I love making lists like that. I have stacks and stacks of them and whenever I need a pick-me-up, I just read one, even half of one.
And HELLO!!! Cannot WAIT to see pictures of the soon-to-be-debuted ring!!!
Posted by: PaintingChef | November 30, 2005 at 02:35 PM