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August 17, 2010


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My mercy it's good to hear from you. This is an exciting (and terrifying) time in life. I'm so glad you and Luke are so good together and take the time to work these things out. I think our whole "baby club" is hitting the point where we're having to make some big honkin' decisions about our lives. And I'd say we're all taking it in stride pretty well. Maybe we're going to be good at this grown-up thing after all.
(As long as we've gooooooot each ooootherrrr!) (Had to.) (Your mom had to.)

As always, Frema, you wrote a very thought provoking post.

Being just days away from giving birth to my second I've actually been thinking a lot about a third. But The King, like Luke, isn't really interested. Anyway, thanks for offering your thoughts on the matter.

(Also, I wouldn't live by my family if you paid me. But hey, some people really like it. Maybe you would!)

I'm glad to hear you're coming to some peace on everything and feel like you're moving forward instead of floundering. You SOUND so much happier talking about it that you have previously, which makes me happy for you.

We're solid on our "to three or not to three" (for us it's to three but not for a couple years. We need the distance from screaming infants). But we have come to a place (and when I say we I mean I) where I'd like to move away from my family, my state, and the city I spent most of the last 2 decades in. I want an adventure. I want to pick a place on the map and see if we can make it, just us 4. We are in the very beginning stages of this, just putting out feelers but it's a start. We're giving the possibilities a chance to work themselves into something or fizzle out.
I'm glad you're back.

I couldn't help myself - I had to try. "The prince, who held a strong belief in the truth, was stumbling in the dark and began to grope for his radio but banged his knee, so he played the cello in lieu of calling the friar for help." Not dirty at all!! :-)

We are very much on the fence of "to three or not to three". We actually would love to three but right now education and finances stand in the way. We are taking a "wait and see" approach to that subject for now.

And we have no intention whatsoever of leaving central Indiana. Bloomington is our home and it will stay that way for quite some time.

Good luck in deciding!

I don't envy you at all. I was always worried that I would never know when to stop, because I loved kids and newborns so much. Then we wrestled with whether or not to have a 4th (we had always said we wanted 4)...life was getting easier, I hated being pregnant, etc. But in the future, we saw ourselves with 4 kids. We were going to revisit the subject again in the fall, but apparently God had other plans. Now pregnant with our 4th, I'm very certain this is the last, and I'm enjoying every "last" moment. All of my friends talked about having this feeling and knowing they were done, and now I know what they mean. Maybe that means you're supposed to have a third and then you'll get your feeling? I don't know, but I just wanted to empathize with you because we were there....

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